Are you hurt?

I woke up early today with thoughts of our kids. Nothing bad but those common thoughts, I wonder if they are happy? I wonder if they are going in a forward direction? Do they need anything? You know the basics of what every Mother hopes and dreams for her kids. Now Grandkids are in the picture and the same questions are asked about them.

We have all heard, "if Mommy isn't happy, no one is happy," what about putting dad in there? "if Daddy isn't happy, no one is happy."

Crazy how we put so much of our own happiness, our own peace on other people. Giving others so much power. If Mom or Dad are not happy, that is a personal problem. It's not a problem we need to take on but we do. That continues to be part of our development as we grow into adulthood.

I remember our kids thinking I was mad when I wasn't. Thinking back, there were times I was struggling, times I was hurt and guess my behavior showed anger. Interesting how they took my unhappiness or my struggling and attached the "she must not love me then, I must have done something wrong" thoughts. While we were all growing up, I am happy to say I have learned how to heal the hurt. How to depend on my internal validation ... no longer requiring outside validation. Not focusing on the "what" a person does but on the "who" they are.

It is a great space to be in. It is easier to love authentically. May you find your peace you are searching for. I know it's out there, I know you can do it!

Create a fabulous day!

Jody