Resistance ...

This past week I have had more resistance than I bargained for. The resistance from my own self limiting beliefs.

I feel like I have been asked to run a race, striving (because of my belief of determination and my competitive belief) for a record time but found myself caught in a fierce wind slowing my pace. It was frustrating and confusing. I knew I was able to set a record pace but was fighting against the wind that kept pushing me back. I was not accepting the wind, accepting the fact that logistically it would slow down my pace. I ended up being exhausted simply because I fought so hard against it (my belief that being tired is a type of failure). IF I would have accepted it, I could have used it to my advantage. Accepted where I was and what I was up against. I could have shifted my perspective and thought of the fierce resistance as training. Only AFTER the race did I find any peace. I missed the mark! The record time was NOT the mark I should have aimed for but it was the step by step journey that was the greatest benefit. NOT where I ended up and how but celebrating that I took it step by step and didn't give up (My new belief of the importance of sharpening the saw - taking care of me gives me greater results with less effort).

Isn't that how life goes? It seems we face resistance everyday. I found that when I recognize I'm going through resistance, I'm good to slow my pace and reflect. Am I going in the right direction? Just because I felt resistance does NOT mean it's the wrong way. Most times it's because it IS the right direction and I'm simply getting out of my comfort zone.

Here's what I want you to do. IF you are feeling resistance, write down how you feel and why you feel that way. It's not a right or wrong answer, just write down your feelings. This will give you a better perspective on what benefit the resistance is there for.

Enjoy your day,

Jody

Are you hurt?

I woke up early today with thoughts of our kids. Nothing bad but those common thoughts, I wonder if they are happy? I wonder if they are going in a forward direction? Do they need anything? You know the basics of what every Mother hopes and dreams for her kids. Now Grandkids are in the picture and the same questions are asked about them.

We have all heard, "if Mommy isn't happy, no one is happy," what about putting dad in there? "if Daddy isn't happy, no one is happy."

Crazy how we put so much of our own happiness, our own peace on other people. Giving others so much power. If Mom or Dad are not happy, that is a personal problem. It's not a problem we need to take on but we do. That continues to be part of our development as we grow into adulthood.

I remember our kids thinking I was mad when I wasn't. Thinking back, there were times I was struggling, times I was hurt and guess my behavior showed anger. Interesting how they took my unhappiness or my struggling and attached the "she must not love me then, I must have done something wrong" thoughts. While we were all growing up, I am happy to say I have learned how to heal the hurt. How to depend on my internal validation ... no longer requiring outside validation. Not focusing on the "what" a person does but on the "who" they are.

It is a great space to be in. It is easier to love authentically. May you find your peace you are searching for. I know it's out there, I know you can do it!

Create a fabulous day!

Jody