Are you hurt?

I woke up early today with thoughts of our kids. Nothing bad but those common thoughts, I wonder if they are happy? I wonder if they are going in a forward direction? Do they need anything? You know the basics of what every Mother hopes and dreams for her kids. Now Grandkids are in the picture and the same questions are asked about them.

We have all heard, "if Mommy isn't happy, no one is happy," what about putting dad in there? "if Daddy isn't happy, no one is happy."

Crazy how we put so much of our own happiness, our own peace on other people. Giving others so much power. If Mom or Dad are not happy, that is a personal problem. It's not a problem we need to take on but we do. That continues to be part of our development as we grow into adulthood.

I remember our kids thinking I was mad when I wasn't. Thinking back, there were times I was struggling, times I was hurt and guess my behavior showed anger. Interesting how they took my unhappiness or my struggling and attached the "she must not love me then, I must have done something wrong" thoughts. While we were all growing up, I am happy to say I have learned how to heal the hurt. How to depend on my internal validation ... no longer requiring outside validation. Not focusing on the "what" a person does but on the "who" they are.

It is a great space to be in. It is easier to love authentically. May you find your peace you are searching for. I know it's out there, I know you can do it!

Create a fabulous day!

Jody

Perspective

I was talking with a friend and kept hearing the word 'change.' I realized how little she accepted herself. Think about it, there is NO ONE in this world that needs changing. They are perfect the way the are. I would say we all deserve to 'shift' our perspective. Can you hear the difference?

Some of you reading this might strongly disagree with that but hear me out.

We are spiritual Children of God, as I believe. If this is true, we have a spiritual lineage. We also have been asked to follow in God's footsteps. If God is Love and he loves UNCONDITIONALLY, then that becomes our quest in our lifetime. Loving unconditionally means just that....NO CONDITIONS, the love is always there. God doesn't love you IF you do A, B or C ... God loves you because you are who you are!
If we could learn to love as God loves, not just others but ourselves we can then begin understanding more of God's plan laid out for us. In fact, we must learn first and acquire that unconditional love for our self before we can give it to anyone else. We can not give what we do not have.

I had a grandson looking for me. I was on a balcony waving my arms trying to get him to notice me. He kept looking up and around because he heard me but never saw me. This kinda describes what I'm talking about. My grandson didn't have anything to change to see me, he simply needed to shift his perspective. He finally saw me only after he was willing to shift his perspective and stance and waved back.

Try it on for today, shifting your perspective with one person. If they tell you or explain something, do your best to look at it from their point of view. Like Steven R. Covey stated, "Seek to understand before seeking to be understood."

Create yourself a fabulous day!

Jody